boundaries to expand compassion

“The most connected and compassionate people of those I’ve interviewed set and respect boundaries.”
– Brené Brown, Daring Greatly

When I first read this sentence, it resonated deeply. Many times, if I am asked for something (my time, my skills, my ear), if I say no, it feels inherently selfish. Like I’m not giving enough.

And yet when I look to the people I respect and admire, people like my colleague Alex and my partner-in-crime here at Notions, Liz, I see people who stay firm with their boundaries in the most loving and compassionate way possible. And I don’t begrudge them for it. In fact, I respect them more. And I know that, when I have that person’s attention, the focus will be completely present and engaged.

Boundaries are very hard for me. If I can be of use, I want to say yes. But I feel the too many yeses draining me. I want to be the most connected and compassionate version of myself possible. So continuing on my path to set and respect boundaries has to be a priority.